rapport

A Quick Way To Calm Your Class, Build Rapport, And End Bullying – Education Article

With a single statement, spoken at the beginning of the day or class period, you can send a wave of calmness throughout your classroom. It takes just a few seconds, but you’ll see, and even feel, the difference immediately. You’ll also notice a greater appreciation for you, trust in you, and desire to be around you—which is key to building effortless rapport. The statement is this: “If you’re ever bullied, bothered, or made fun of, or feel uncomfortable in this…

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How To Handle Annoying Students – Education Article

So you have this student who seemingly at every break wants to share critical information with you. Sometimes it’s an observation. “The heater is making a strange clicking sound.” Sometimes it’s a suggestion. “I think you should line the class up in alphabetical order.” Sometimes it’s a tattle. “Leticia has a bag of chips in her pocket, and I saw her eating them.” They’re not interrupting or being rude. Nor are they breaking any rules. But it gets on your…

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How To Handle A Student Who Rejects Your Kindness – Education Article

You give and you give. You give your patience and humor. You give your positivity and respect. You give your heart and hope for their future. And they discard it. They crumble it up and toss it in the trash. They meet your smile, your generosity, and your kindness with indifference—and even cruelty. They roll their eyes at your attempts to build rapport. They stare off into the distance and mumble when you try to engage them in conversation. They…

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7 Reasons Your Students Dislike You – Education Article

Likability is a key principle of SCM—because it makes building rapport effortless. It causes students to want to listen to you, please you, and behave for you. It helps make your consequences matter. Being disliked, on the other hand, makes classroom management far more difficult. It’s the reason many teachers struggle year after year, why they find themselves pleading, arguing, and bribing just to get through the day. The problem with turning it around, however, is that it can be…

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When You Need To Be A Mean Teacher – Education Article

The questions usually come via email. But I also get them face to face when doing personal coaching. They’re often asked with a hint of incredulity, as if what I write isn’t necessarily how I feel behind closed doors. “Aren’t there some moments that call for lectures, admonishments, and the like?” “Isn’t raising your voice and showing some anger at times the best thing you can do?” “Don’t teachers have to show they mean business at least some of the…

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